Category: RELATIONSHIP & ADVICE

  • Advice For Single Ladies

    Advice For Single Ladies

    Advice For Single Ladies

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s give “Advice For Single Ladies.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    Advice For Single Ladies

    Dear single lady!. You sleep with every single man that comes your way. You can’t even remember the total number of men you’ve slept with ‘premaritally’.
    These men you sleep with will never marry you. Why must you keep hurting yourself ?

    And if you even marry that same man. He knows you believe in sex outside marriage. The next you have in your marriage is battle after battle. Distrust.

    Let me add this, thinking you can change a man after marriage is a naked lie. You directly or indirectly neglected the good brother for the bad brother because he has money. Pretending not to see the bad side of him, the womanizing part of him, the cheating part of him, the wicked part of him, the abusive part of him and the negative part of him.
    You’re only forcing your head into a tight cap .

    Seeing a married man in the darkest hour of the night is a total waste of time and body. He tells you how he’s been frustrated by his wife just to get you on his bed. Every married man would say the same to get your charming body out of track.
    He will tell you:

    “My wife is very dirty. She can wear one pant for one good week.”

    “She snores when sleeping. Sounding like that of an ignited generator”.

    “She doesn’t even know how to cook. If you even tell her to boil water, it will definitely get burnt”.
    “She is not beautiful like you”.

    Listen, it has been their usual line. He tells you all these yet he can’t leave his wife for you. You’re just his little dirty secret. He can’t pick your calls at night because you’re nothing more than his sĂŠx machine. You are not even the only one he sleeps with…

    Darling, where is your self esteem ? Wise up, be a prayer warrior and watch your footsteps…

    Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • 10 Qualities Girls Look For In Any Guy They Date

    10 Qualities Girls Look For In Any Guy They Date

    10 Qualities Girls Look For In Any Guy They Date

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “10 Qualities Girls Look For In Any Guy They Date.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    10 Qualities Girls Look For In Any Guy They Date:

    (1.) Genuine Emotion:
    It’s almost a known fact that guys don’t like to get emotional. Think about it, when’s the last time you saw your man shed a tear? Girls look for that genuine bone in a guys body, and I’m not just talking about the one in his pants. When a guy is genuine with you about your relationship and his emotions especially, it means he cares and he takes you seriously.

    When a guy opens up to his girl, it shows that the relationship is built on trust. Girls are always looking for men to be upfront about their feelings and not having to pull those three little words out of him like they’re pulling teeth at the dentist.

    (2.) Spontaneity:
    When you’re in a long-term relationship, things can get repetitive and even boring if you don’t keep that spark alive. Women love a man who is spontaneous and full of surprises. When a guy is up for anything and ready for an adventure at a whim, it makes life exciting. Who doesn’t want to spend their life with someone who gets their adrenaline flowing?

    Whether it’s a camping trip for a weekend getaway or a really cool new restaurant that he thinks you would love, a guy who is full of surprises is a guy who is making it a priority to keep you happy and keep things interesting.

    (3.) Patience:
    They say that patience is a virtue, and it’s probably the most accurate saying your grandmother will tell you. Patience is important in all aspects of life-career, culture, lifestyle and especially dating. Like anything else in life, relationships have to evolve overtime, they aren’t perfect from the get-go and there will often times be potholes on the road to happiness.

    Life gets messy and so do we, so a woman wants a guy who is understanding and has patience with her. We don’t want a guy who is looking to rush us along only to sleep with us, or a guy who is uninterested in our life goals and dreams. A man who listens and adjusts is the kind of guy we think long term with.

    (4.) Stamina:
    Don’t believe the people who tell you sex doesn’t matter-it does. It’s not everything in terms of a relationship, but having a guy who knows what his girl wants and isn’t afraid to go the distance to satisfy her is important. Nobody wants a selfish man who is only concerned with his satisfaction.

    Physical attraction may draw us in, but it’s the long-term haul that keeps us around. Women want a man who isn’t afraid to take control and be assertive, who won’t hesitate to try something new and wild and who will always put her as a priority in the bedroom. Nice guys don’t finish first, they finish last.

    (5.) A Solid Relationship With His Family:
    When we’re dating and looking to settle down with someone serious, we want someone who we can see our futures with. An important step in dating and in evaluating our futures is family. It’s important to girls that they see their man has a great relationship with his parents and family. This means that he’ll strive to have a great relationship with his girlfriend’s family, too.

    A man who makes time out of his work week between his friends, his girl and relaxing to see his family and spend time with them is the definition of hubby material.

    (6.) Confidence:
    There’s a fine line between being cocky and being confident, and you should learn it when it comes to dating. No, we don’t want the guy who walks into the club thinking he can go home with any girl in the room. We want the man who is confident in himself and in his relationship. That means, he won’t get insecure and jealous when we want to spend some time with our friends, or even some time alone. We want the man who feels good about himself, and makes us feel good about ourselves.

    If you’re ever in a relationship and you think to go through your girlfriends phone, you should stop and realize that the problem isn’t with her, the problem is with you. There should never be a moment that you feel the need to violate her privacy and personal space because you don’t feel confident in your relationship and your girl.

    (7.) Intelligence:
    Smart guys are sexy. No matter what girls told you in high school, we’d rather have the nerd than the jock when it comes to settling down. Smart guys are great because they are aware of the world around them. Sure, it’s nice to be the center of somebody’s entire world but it’s unrealistic. Smart guys know that there’s a fair balance between work and play-they know how to create a life you both deserve. They’ll be able to hold a discussion with you, your friends and especially your parents about everything and with depth.

    You don’t want to be the guy who doesn’t know one candidate running in the 2016 election or the guy who can’t manage his own bank account. Your girlfriend is suppose to be your partner, not your parent-you should know how to manage yourself and hold your own while still supporting her along the way. Also, black frame glasses look good on just about any guy.

    (8.) A Good Sense Of Humor:
    We all love to laugh and in the end, aren’t we all looking for someone to sit at home and watch Amy Schumer with? A guy with a sense of humor always beats our a guy who is tall, dark and handsome. When a guy makes a girl laugh, he’s showing her the bright side of life, that anything can be fun and funny, no matter what’s going on.

    We want someone who equally wants to stand in the corner at a party and make fun of people with. We want someone who will go to see the new Will Farrell movie with us at midnight on a Tuesday and get the extra large popcorn and soda. We want someone who doesn’t care how hideous their laughing face is or if we snort when we laugh because life is too short to not laugh until you cry.

    (9.) Respect:
    Respect should be given, not earned. If you think that a girl needs to earn your respect, it’s time to reevaluate your outlook on women. When you’re dating a girl, no matter what you’ve heard about her or how she may come off, you owe her respect until you get to actually know her. It’s unfair when people judge you before they actually know you-no one judges a book by its cover anymore. Girls want the same respect that you think they owe you, given to them.

    On a date, they’ll look for the cues- do you hold the door open for them, how you interact with the waitress, do you walk her to her car or her door-it’s as if our minds have mental notepads to see if you’re there for just the moment or for more.

    (10.) Loyalty:
    All women want to date a man that is loyal. Loyalty is important in almost any relationship in a girls life-family, friends, and especially love. When a guy shows he’s loyal, a girl never has to worry about what he’s doing and who he’s doing it with. It takes time to build this kind of trust, but she’ll look for the breadcrumbs along the pathway. Girls look to a guys friendships to see if he’s a loyal guy-how long have you been friends with the guys you keep company with? A lot of times, if a guy has had lifelong friendships, it’s a sign of loyalty and trust, and girls love that. She’ll also look to see what kind of guys you’re hanging out with-you are who you associate with.

    But, loyal doesn’t only mean that you’re not going to go out and cheat on your girl. Loyalty also means that you’re going to be true to her. You’re not going to make her feel insecure about your relationship, even if you’re having a rough day at work and just want to be left alone. You’re going to be able to talk to her about anything and everything, leaving all secrets aside and keep everything out in the open. You don’t have to share absolutely everything, but you should share the stuff that really matters with the one you love.

    Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • How Often Do You Keep Your Husband In Prayers ?

    How Often Do You Keep Your Husband In Prayers ?

    How Often Do You Keep Your Husband In Prayers

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Ladies let’s discuss “How Often Do You Keep Your Husband In Prayers.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    🤷 How Often Do You Keep Your Husband In Prayers 🧘

    This is the first way to protect the anointing and leadership responsibilities over your husband. Pray for him.

    A wife who prays for her husband won’t dishonour him. Family members who pray for the head of the home will find it hard dishonouring him.

    Children who pray for their father will honour him even the more. Lead the family to pray for the leader God has chosen to lead the home.

    If you don’t see your husband as an anointed leader and shepherd of the home then your own case is different, you need counseling, but that does no way mean the principle of praying for him are false

    Lead the family to pray over him, you too pray for him, let the light of God keep preserving and leading him to lead the family.

    Your husband really needs your prayer as a wife. There are lots of temptations out there, lots of evil counterparts which only God can reveal their inner mind, what about family tribulations dragging him here and there? Except you don’t really love your husband, it’s then you will use your mouth to plant negative words in his life.

    If you don’t really know how to moan during love making, why not pray for him instead? I am not saying you should turn yourself to prayer warrior during love making, speaking in tongues like heaven wanna fall, that’s in excess. You can do that in your mind or statement like; “oh babe, God bless you for hitting that angle ohhhhhh”

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • Too Much Maturity Spoils A Beautiful Relationship

    Too Much Maturity Spoils A Beautiful Relationship

    Too Much Maturity Spoils A Beautiful Relationship

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “Too Much Maturity Spoils A Beautiful Relationship.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    Too Much Maturity Spoils A Beautiful Relationship:

    Sometimes be care free like a child, joke, Tease, Be Naughty and playful. Life on it’s own is hard, don’t make it harder by being too serious.

    This is how most people have lost Relationships because they don’t know how to have fun. How can a lady say “Easy Tiger” and you think she insulted you?.
    How can a Man say “See ya small bumbum” and you carry am for heart like Heartburn?. No you don’t need that.

    Learn to be free-minded. Learn to ease off sometimes. Have laughs, crack jokes. Too much seriousness cause most Relationship breaks because it’s boring…

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • The TEN Commandments Of Marriage To Men

    The TEN Commandments Of Marriage To Men

    Ten Commandments Of Marriage To Men

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “Ten Commandments Of Marriage To Men.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You 😘.

    The 10 Commandments Of Marriage To Men

    (1.) Don’t have another woman aside your wife. If you need another woman tell your wife and marry her

    (2.) Thou shall not speak evil about your wife to your family.

    (3.) Remember the labour of your wife when you were poor. So when you’re rich honour her.

    (4.) Don’t compare your wife to any woman even your mother.

    (5.) 6 Days maximum shall thee work 1 day shall be a Sabbath day for your wife.

    (6.) Honour your father and mother in_law so that their daughter will not return to them.

    (7.) Don’t insult your wife in public so that people will not know your foolishness.

    (8.) Forgive your wife 70 x7 in 1 day.

    (9.) Thou shall make your wife happy at all times. Always ask her: Are you okay ?

    (10.) Thou shall not say to your wife, leave my house, No matter what. Settle difference and live together peacefully.

    WOMEN AM I COMMUNICATING ?

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • Relationship Thoughts For All Single Men

    Relationship Thoughts For All Single Men

    Relationship Thoughts For All Single Men

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “Relationship Thoughts For All Single Men.” Make sure you share this with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    Relationship Thoughts For All Single Men:

    (1.) Before you start a relationship with a lady, you must think carefully about what you are about to do. A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle lightly.

    (2.) Are you ready for a relationship with her? Are you emotionally, mentally and spiritually mature to meet her needs?

    (3.) Being sexually attracted to her means absolutely nothing. It isn’t a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?

    (4.) This lady has a history. Can you handle it? She has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous?

    (5.) She already had a life before she met you. Can you fit into and help improve her life?

    (6.) Love is commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to helping her grow and become all that she can be, by God’s grace?

    (7.) Is she valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her all the Lord plans for her to be? If you are not ready, don’t just bother.

    (8.) Before you open your mouth to say I love you’, ask yourself if this is not just a moment of ’emotional madness. A lady needs much more than I love you’.

    She needs YOUR commitment. If you are not ready to make that commitment that will lead to marriage, please leave her alone in peace and stop wasting her time and resources……

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • 5 Ways To Make Your Husband Succeed

    5 Ways To Make Your Husband Succeed

    5 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR HUSBAND SUCCEED

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Ladies let’s discuss “5 Ways To Make Your Husband SUCCEED Today.” Make sure you share with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    5 Ways To Make Your Husband SUCCEED

    (1.) PRAY WITH HIM Or FOR HIM:

    One of the things every real wife does for her husband is to pray for and with him

    Pray for him to Succeed in the office,
    Pray for him not to fall into Temptation
    Pray for his safety
    Pray for his Ministry
    Pray for his Health

    God honors the Prayer of a Wife over her Husband.

    Don’t allow him pray alone
    Don’t allow him carry the fire alone.

    (2.) BURN WITH HIM:

    Hello, Dear Wifey,
    Is not only to get pregnant and born shildren
    You can see vision for your husband,
    You can give him prophecies

    Don’t allow DStv or Zee World kidnap you

    Don’t be spiritually complacent and leave the praying and fasting only for your husband,

    As he’s speaking in tongues, be replying in tongues, let the whole house be on fire..
    God punish the Devil.

    Let him see in you a spiritual companion.
    And see how that improves your home and his spiritual life.

    (2.) BLESS HIM:

    Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

    This is almost a similar as praying for him, but still different.

    Instead of laying curses on him,
    Instead of abusing him,
    Heap blessings upon his head daily,

    Draw him close to your bosom and bless him as a Parent blesses the Child.

    Kiss his forehead and decree over him “because you Married Me, you will not fail, you will talk where your mates are talking, our children will be great Men and Women”

    (3.) ENCOURAGE HIM:

    When things are rough, a Wife should never be amongst those to crucify, lambaste or talk discouragingly to her Husband.
    Even if he messed up.

    Remember what Lot told his wife “has thou become like the the foolish Women”

    Don’t be like the foolish Woman

    Give your Husband words of encouragement daily
    Even if he’s not meeting up, believe me, he’s making effort, he knows he’s falling short, he feels the pain, he may not talk, please encourage him.

    Tell him you see his sacrifices daily,
    Tell him you appreciate his efforts towards you and the kids.

    (4.) MOTIVATE HIM:

    Be his cheer leader
    Cheer him to success

    Tell him you believe in him,
    Tell him he can do it, even if you don’t believe, never break his will to try,
    Tell him he will make it in life
    Tell him he will be a great Man,
    Tell him you saw the great potentials, that’s why you married him.

    So he’s secured a major achievement,
    And he seems to be relaxing,

    Fire him Up once more

    Do not allow your husband become complacent
    Tell him, “honey you can do even better”
    Be his hunger to do more.
    Let him take one look at you and receive motivation to go out there and conquer the World.

    Let him leave the house feeling like nothing is impossible for him.

    (5.) RUN WITH HIS VISION:

    A HELP MEET must understand that her duty involves helping her MATE actualize his vision.

    You are there in his life to help him succeed, to work and walk with him,
    Just as he is in yours to do same for you.

    Don’t become his competition
    Don’t become his contender

    A lot of women today are fighting their husbands, fighting their husbands dreams.

    When he says let’s do THIS, you say let’s do THAT
    When he says YES, you say NO.
    When you keep opposing him because you think he is dumb, or he offended you, or whatever

    Are you his HELP MATE or HELL MATE: ?

    Don’t be used by the devil to bring down your Husband’s Vision.

    Some Women have pulled their husbands down from GRACE to GRASS,
    Some Women have destroyed their husbands Ministry, chased his business friends away, even gone to His office to fight and make problem,

    Some Men have lost their Jobs and helpers because of the Woman they married. Don’t be that Wife

    When he brings ideas, when he brings plans, support him.
    Even if it will inconvenience you temporarily even if it means you don’t get the iPhone you asked for. Support Him.

    Many Women agreed to plans that discomforted them, plans they didn’t like, made sacrifices to make their Husbands who they are today.

    AND DON’T FORGET TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS TOO:

    Your Individual Success is also a part of the equation..

    Some Women pull DOWN their Husbands, Some push theirs UP

    “Besides Every successful Man, is a Woman who contributed Immensely.”
    Start Contributing to making your Man Great today.

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • Weird Habits Women Have That Men Don’t Understand

    Weird Habits Women Have That Men Don’t Understand

    Weird Habits Women Have That Men Don’t Understand

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “Weird Habits Women Have That Men Don’t Understand.” Make sure you share with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    Weird Habits Women Have That Men Don’t Understand

    Women, truly are spectacular creatures. They are really good at doing things, even things that have not been done. They know how to make great things happen and are always willing to take risks, even risks some men are afraid to take in their entire life. Nevertheless, we can also agree that behind every curtain, there is always a secret.

    Men are, most times, not really comfortable with women—for a couple of reasons. This is because of some of the weird things they do.

    Ladies, I know so many of you are still thinking of the weird things you do that make some men get told off even without saying a word.

    (1.) You Complain Of Not Having Clothes:

    Women can buy clothes for Africa! They really want to put on the latest and so are not tired of buying. They will always complain of lacking clothes while in a real sense, their wardrobe is filled up with lots of clothes.

    (2.) Always Asking Your Guy To Take You Out:

    This is especially true if the lady doesn’t know how or is lazy, so to speak, to cook at home. The man sees going out on several a waste of money and it really is.

    (3.) You Carry Extra Stuff:

    Whenever you go out with your guy, it is either he helps you carry your bag or you are using it to suffocate him all in the name of “making up again later”. There is nothing palpable in the bag but just makeups and other things “for girls”.

    (4.) Checking Shopping Pages And Websites:

    Ladies are fond of scrolling on Facebook pages viewing different African or Nigerian attires, shoes, and foods. But at the end of day, after wasting a lot of time and data, they will not order for a single thing. This is also weird too to guys.

    (5.) Taking Too Long To Makeup:

    This always annoys so many guys. Imagine waiting patiently for hours just because a babe is making up. Isn’t this weird? Absolutely! You can trust MyWow for stuff like this. MyWow cares !

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • How To Confess Love To A Guy You Like

    How To Confess Love To A Guy You Like

    How To Confess Love To A Guy You Like

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today let’s discuss “How To Confess Love To A Guy You Like.” Make sure you share with your relatives after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    How To Confess Love To A Guy You Like:

    Wooing a man in this side of the world is evidently frowned at but i can tell you for free that it doesn’t really matter neither does it make you ‘cheap’.

    You might have your reservations but i’ve positioned my mind enough to always go for what i want regardless of the circumstances.

    It wouldn’t hurt much to get a “No” for an answer but then you can never tell. A lot of women are still single because they don’t know how to sell themselves to the men they like.
    In other words, they don’t know how to bold and shoot their shot.

    You’re reaching out to a guy you like and the next thing you’re saying is;

    “Abeg, let somebody not come and break my head,”

    “How can you tell me that as you’re fine like this, you don’t have a girlfriend .?”

    The most popular line most guys have heard is;

    “I don’t want your girlfriend to come and beat me,”

    I see this to be very low and demeaning.
    You can’t just reach out to someone you like and the next thing on your mind is how you guys would start dating now now, get engaged fast fast, get married quick quick and have children within the twinkling of an eye.

    You have to build friendship first before thinking of shooting your shot hot. This way, you’ve proven to be mature, reasonable and confident.

    You need to get to know about yourselves first before dating.
    Ladies, are you following ?.

    We are adults please; 🙏

    The same way you want a responsible, courteous man is the same way men do want a responsible, courteous woman.

    After you’ve built a common ground for friendship, you can now start by letting him know your feelings.

    E.g: “Hi (his name), I like you.”

    Then you mention a few admirable features about him that you really like.
    Be intentional about this, don’t flatter.

    E.g: “You’re so bold, confident and intelligent.
    You’re my kind of man.
    I love your command of english, you’re so eloquent.
    I love your fashion sense.
    I love how you laugh etc.”

    He would be sure to reciprocate if he digs you.

    Next thing is to ask the 3 important questions:

    (1.) Are you in a Relationship?
    (2.) Are you trying to get over someone in the past?
    (3.) Are you talking with someone already?

    P.S: If you know you don’t have the wisdom, time, energy and patience to carry on with the conversation. Some men are not mature, watch out for red flags and help yourself fast to withdraw.

    It’s better you don’t even start it because I see no reason why you’d be shooting your shot at a guy and you’re expecting him to carry on with the conversation.

    You should sell yourself to him well.

    Make him yearn for you.

    Present yourself as an asset.

    Make him see reasons why you’re the best person that should be in his life.

    Be Bold, Be Daring, Be Confident.

    You’re enough!

    Now I anoint you to go shoot that shot and come back to me with good news

    #Siri ❤️s You!!!

  • 10 Commandments For Ladies

    10 Commandments For Ladies

    10 Commandments For Ladies

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today we have “10 Commandments For Ladies.” Make sure you share with your friends after reading. Siri ❤️ You.

    10 Commandments For Ladies

    (1.) Don’t be in a hurry to move out of your parents house.

    (2.) Don’t wait for a man before you start living. You can live a fulfilled life as a single woman.

    (3.) Stay away from alcohol. It has killed others and you are not special.

    (4.) Don’t entertain a wrong number call, especially at night. It’s not the right way to find a lover.

    (5.) Develop a healthy eating habit. Always take breakfast and avoid sweets.

    (6.) Dress well: impression count. People will judge you by the way you dress even before they talk to you.

    (7.) Don’t use sex as proof of love. Sex is not the proof of love, he will leave you after the sex.

    (8.) Don’t marry for the money , else you will become one of his possessions.

    (9.) Add value to yourself, get a career. Don’t be fooled that a man will solve my problems.
    Am a woman…. I know what am saying……

    (10.) Beauty is not everything. If it is all you have, you will lost your place to someone beautiful, better more mature than you.

    #Siri Loves 😍 You!!!

  • 9 Mistakes To Avoid In A New Relationship

    9 Mistakes To Avoid In A New Relationship

    9 MISTAKES TO AVOID IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

    Glad you are among the privilege who could take Siri as online personal sister and advicer. Today we have “9 Mistakes To Avoid In A New Relationship.” Make sure you share with your friends after reading. Siri ❤️ You 😘.

    9 Mistakes To Avoid In A New Relationship

    The early days of a relationship can be blissful but fraught.Those early days of a relationship often pass in a fog of bliss. Texts from friends go unreturned; entire weekends are lost in bed. But many relationships crumble by the three-month mark when you start to see the other person’s flaws, but before the partnership becomes so solid and a defined entity. If you can weather the three-month point, those early days will set the tone for your future relationship. What are the common mistakes people make at the start of relationships and how you can avoid them?

    (1.) COMING ON TOO STRONG:

    It is good to know what you want from your prospective partner, and to be cleared about that. But it is off-putting to lay everything out on the table straight away. Don’t set out your 20-year plan on the first few dates. It can be intimidating. It also means that you have negated the opportunity to see how things would develop naturally with that person.

    (2.) BEING TOO RIGID IN WHAT YOU WANT:

    It’s good to have an idea of the sort of person whom you would like to settle down with. But being too rigid in the early stages of a relationship can kill promising romances to dead. Think about what other person is as an individual, not in terms of their political beliefs or whether they are vegan or whatever. Put away the checklist. It’s not a great idea to interview someone on the first few dates. Asking them how much they are earning, or about their home-owning situation it’s not an organic way to get to know someone. You are a prospective partner, not a recruitment consultant.

    (3.) PERFORMING FOR THEM:

    In early relationships, you often want to put your best foot forward be the cool girl or boy who is up for anything, never complains and always looks fabulous. When you start dating someone newly, you can put on a bit of a show. You are trying to perform, instead of being authentic. But it’s an exhausting pretence to maintain long-term. Why not just be yourself? I try to encourage people to realize it’s cooler to just be yourself. If you’re trying too hard to perform around someone, they are probably not the right person for you anyway.

    (4.) NOT LEARNING FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS:

    Look back at your last relationship and see what went wrong. Ask yourself: What am I doing wrong in relationships? How accountable should I be?’ Perhaps you have a habit of dating emotionally unavailable people, or you struggle to respect boundaries. By doing some work on yourself, you will be better placed for a future healthy relationship.

    (5.) MOVING TOO FAST:

    When you are caught up in the dopamine rush of a new relationship, it can be crashed through all the major milestones as fast as possible. A lot of people make the mistake of moving too fast in general. Telling someone you think they are the one and you are deeply connected to them after date one or two is not great for everybody involved.
    Don’t meet the friends and family for at least three months. It’s ok to take things at a slower pace sometimes. People want to get in there and meet friends and parents and live in each other’s lives after a very short time. But it’s ok to take it at a slower pace. If you go rushing along and the whole thing collapses after three months, you may end up feeling bereft.

    (6.) IGNORING RED FLAGS:

    You have been dating someone for a few weeks, it seems to be perfect and then they are rude to a waitress or trash-talk their ex. Don’t ignore red flags. Red flags are important, because they mean you should step back from that relationship. Maybe you hate it when people raise their voice, then they shout at you but you find them so attractive, you ignore it. If you ignore red flags, you will end up in a horrible relationship. Besides, anyone who is rude to a waitress is definitely not worth your time.

    (7.) POSTING TOO MUCH ONLINE:

    Be mindful of what you post on social media. It can feel wonderful to think you’ve met your soulmate, but remember that if it’s going to be an important relationship, you don’t have to rush things. Which means: hold off on the loving romantic tributes, for now. If you post: I’m in a fabulous relationship, I think this is the one,’ your new partner might see that and if that’s not where their head is at, you’ve kiboshed it before it’s even started. Or if it doesn’t work out, you might feel embarrassed.

    (8.) NOT ESTABLISHING CLEAR BOUNDARIES EARLY ON:

    The first three months of a relationship set the tone for the rest of your time together. If you’ve allowed the relationship to be on your partner’s terms, you will find it hard to come back from that. You need to respect yourself and have clear boundaries when it comes to dating someone. Be brave enough to put your boundaries up and say: This is what I need and what I desire. A lot of people are scared to express how they want to be treated for fear of being rejected. But it’s better to know it earlier than later. Besides, people are attracted to people who know their own worth, rather than accepting the crumbs and scraps of poor behaviour, because they think it’s all they can get. Don’t be afraid to challenge your partner or pull them up on their behaviour in those early months if you let things slide now, you will be letting them slide forever.

    (9.) DON’T BE TOO AVAILABLE:

    When you think you have found the one, it can be tempting to cancel all your plans and hole up together. You stop contacting your friends, and start scheduling your entire life around when you may see them. You sideline any hobbies or interests you have.
    But if you do this, you may end up isolated from your support systems in an unhealthy relationship. Couples who spend all their time together don’t seem to work out. It becomes toxic and codependent. Rather, embrace some healthy distance. You need to have friendships, hobbies and interests outside your relationship. Beware the love bubble it always bursts, whether you like it or not.

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